The “Better Not Reflex” Part 2

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EPISODE 21: The “Better Not Reflex” with guest Dani Strang

TRIGGER WARNING: infertility & pregnancy loss

Introduction

Welcome back to the Burnout Lab. We’re here for part 2 of our conversation with the incredible Dani Strang. If you haven’t listened to part 1 yet, (When Pushing Through the “Burnout” Pain isn’t an Option), I recommend you check that one out first. We left off with a bit of a cliff hanger in episode 20, and we can’t wait to pick the story back up here as we continue our conversation on infertility, pregnancy loss, burnout, and the transformative power of vulnerability.

Unveiling Survival Strategies

Dani opens up about her decision to step back and take a pause on her pregnancy journey, revealing it as a survival strategy born from a place of overwhelming stress. She reflects on the suppression and lack of healing in this choice, shedding light on the complexities of navigating burnout amidst life’s challenges.

Navigating Pregnancy Amidst Burnout

Amidst the turmoil, ani experiences the joyous surprise of pregnancy, albeit tinged with anxiety and stress. She candidly shares the pressures at work, the internal struggle between career focus and impending motherhood, and the courageous decision she made to prioritize her own well-being.

The Struggle of Overcompensation

Dani and I discuss the tendency to overcompensate in the face of pregnancy, striving to prove competence despite the physical and emotional challenges. We delve into the tension between visibility and understanding, and the toll it takes on both mental health and pregnancy.

The Power of Storytelling and Vulnerability

Storytelling emerges as a powerful tool for connection and healing. Dani highlights the transformative potential of vulnerability in safe spaces, emphasizing the courage it takes to speak from the heart and share authentic experiences. We explore Brene Brown’s concept of courage, and the revolutionary potential of making space for vulnerable conversations for both men and women.

Postpartum Realities and Career Loss

Dani reflects on postpartum depression compounded by the loss of her career role, acknowledging feelings of betrayal and self-betrayal. She unveils the ‘better not’ reflex ingrained in women, urging for intentional practices to rewire neurological responses and foster self-expression.

Creating Spaces for Thriving

Our conversation culminates in a call to action for creating spaces where ideas, perspectives, and feelings can be shared and celebrated. Dani introduces us to Maggie, a platform dedicated to fostering deliberate conversations and celebrating diverse voices, paving the way for transformative change.

Conclusion

As we conclude this enlightening discussion, I extend heartfelt gratitude to Dani Strang for her invaluable insights and unwavering courage to share her vulnerable moments. Let’s continue to support each other, nurturing spaces for vulnerability, and celebrating the diverse narratives that shape our journey through burnout and beyond. Together, we thrive! Until next time, honour your true self, keep the conversation going, and live life lit! 🔥

Final Remarks

I know our listeners will want to hear so much more from Dani, and we will all be virtually lined up to support her as Maggie officially launches. Thank you, Dani, for your advice, wisdom, and remarkable insights and for being here on the podcast. Keep doing what you’re doing. We need you, we need Maggie, and we can’t wait to celebrate with you. For those who are wondering where to find and read more about this idea of vulnerability in safe spaces, check out the six podcast episodes on the Maggie website under the docuseries tab at Joinmaggie.org.